First Official Entry

Sunday, July 15, 2007


July 15th,This marks the first official entry. My goal of this blog is to openly talk about my experiences that have led me to this stage in my life. This blog is not only about pick up, but also my journey through life's own sticking points.The hope is that someone might come across this and be in the same stage of their life where they are at a cross roads and needs some guidance. I am not looking for subscribers or fan club or anything else along those lines. I want to help myself and in the process provide some help to others.

A little about myself:

I am in my late 20's and have been single for a long time. I guess you could say I am somewhat of a natural. I was extremely popular in high school and college. I have always been interested in the dymanics between men and women so I learned quite a bit through field work and general reading. However, over the last few years a have fallen on hard times. Not financially, but physically. I always struggled with my weight so it has been an issue with me. I am about 60 pounds over my goal weight....

Before you start to picture a guy waddling around in nothing but sweat pants and a smile, I most point out I do have a special talent - I have the gift of style. I know how to present myself so I am dressed fashionable and can hide my problem areas. For the most part, if you saw me you would think that I am a good looking guy that knows how to dress. Which is cool, however, it causes a limiting belief when trying to pickup.

When my weight was under control, I received a lot of Approach Invitations...it was great because I knew I could always go to the bar and pickup (this was before I even knew about the Community). I always considered looks extremely important so when I didn't feel confident, I wouldn't pickup. I can't lie I have let myself go over the past 5 years. This has led me to hiding out and not going out.

I still feel looks are important in pickup. This goes against pua-logic, however, I have seen first hand how easy it is to pickup if you are good looking. Most of my friends are good looking and do extremely well. So once I started to gain weight, I felt bad hanging around them.I don't believe you have to be Brad P to be successful. However, you need to present your best self. I would rate myself about a 7 at this point when I go out. When everything was clicking I had potential to be a 8.5-9. I hate using numbers, however, I need to be real to myself.

Anyways, like everyone else I was given a copy of the Game and found out about the community. I always checked out the other pua-related websites, however, it wasn't until I read the Game that I understood the process. As a result, I have been working on my routines and approaches and have had some success. I have never been shy about approaching. However, it always seemed like I would open the group and my friends would end up closing one of them....which is like masterbating with a cheese grater, slightly amusing, but more or less painful.

I have read most of the books and know the routines, my next step was to take a bootcamp. So I signed up for one. I have about 8.5 weeks to prepare for it. As a result, my #1 goal is to lose weight (specifically 25 pounds). The reason is that I need to be in the right mindset for it. If I am not feeling confident, I won't approach as much...as a result, I want to "Always Be In Set". To do that I need to be in a confident mood.

Therefore, this blog will be broken down into 2 parts- 1) The Journey Leading to My First Bootcamp and 2) The Journey After the Bootcamp.The first part will focus primarily on my weight loss goals. If I have some interesting stories about PU, I will post. However, it will focus on weight loss at first. Post bootcamp - will focus mainly on my sarges and continued weight loss journey which should last till the end of the year.

T.